BDSM often has a bad image among non-experts.
Some say it calls for violence and coercion.
Unjustified because BDSM is about trust and agreements made in advance about what is and is not possible.
This is actually the safest form of sex because it is discussed in advance what someone likes or dislikes, so you know for sure before the game starts that nothing will happen against your will.
In addition, it is common to agree on a Safe word, when you mention that word it stops the game.
Of course, there are cases where BDSM is abused by people to abuse others.
But then we are not talking about BDSM but about abuse.
No form of sex can contain an element in which another is abused, including BDSM.
That being said, let’s delve a little further into BDSM.
There are many sexual fantasies that people have within BDSM.
Some of these are played out in BDSM through role play.
Many people say they enjoy role-playing and that it gives them relaxation to escape from everyday reality.
Here we highlight a few popular BDSM fantasies for you:
To be tied up
For many, being tied up is a hot fantasy. 
To feel like you are powerless and that your partner can do whatever he/she wants with you.
For the person being tied up, the feeling is often more intense because that is the only thing they focus on.
Nothing is expected of them because they are fixed and that way it gives more intensity.
If you want to develop this fantasy, there are various types of toys you can think of, such as bondage rope and cuffs.
Pegging
For many men who are in a heterosexual relationship, it is a great fantasy to be taken anally by their partner.
This is called pegging.
This fantasy is already widely performed and the number of strap-on dildos you can choose from today is enormous.
It can also be very exciting for women to turn the tables and be the one to penetrate.
When you choose a strap-on dildo you have many choices.
You have a regular harness strap-on dildo that you put on like a pair of briefs with a dildo on the outside for penetration.
There are also strap-on dildos that stimulate both the woman and the man from the inside during penetration.
And there are strap-on dildos without a harness that are held vaginally during penetration.
When you first start pegging, look carefully at the sizes of the dildos.
It is better not to start with a strap-on that is too large if you are not yet really experienced in anal sex.
So find one together.
ALWAYS use lubricant for anal sex because otherwise the friction can cause cracks in the anus and that is very unpleasant.
Chastity
For many men who are submissive in BDSM, chastity cages are the ultimate satisfaction… or the inability to satisfy that is satisfying. 
A chastity cage is a cage that confines the penis so that it cannot become completely stiff and therefore the penis cannot really be stimulated.
The partner can then determine when the sub can leave the cage again and whether or not he can have an orgasm.
There are many types of penis cages available and the shape and size also depends on the size of the flaccid or semi-flaccid penis.
Chastity belts are also available for women.
This fetish is more common among men than women, but it can also give an extra dimension to your kinky play for women.
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Roleplay
There are also many Fantasies that are about role-playing games with a certain character, such as student teacher, patient doctor, housekeeper and employer, etc.
This also involves a dominant and submissive person, but in a specific role with the associated outfits.
A playful and fun way to forget the real world around you and get absorbed in your new role.
If you are interested in BDSM but don’t know how to start the game because you are afraid of laughing or completely missing the mark.
Just try it out, you have to start somewhere and every beginning is strange.
Don’t overact or put on a show because you think that’s how it should be.
That doesn’t turn anyone on!
Set everything up together the first time so that you both know what is expected.
Clearly agree on what is and isn’t allowed and agree on a stop word so that it is clear when the game should be stopped immediately.
When you are ready for the game, the Dom can leave the room for a while and come back later and take charge right away.
Beginners options:
In the beginning it can be difficult to build up a game.
Here are some tips on where to start, as you gain more experience your imagination will naturally expand and you will come up with fun new ideas that suit you.
1 Bondage
Limiting freedom space is a good start, you can simply start with a scarf, rope or some cuffs.
Make sure your partner is comfortably tied up so that it can also get nice and horny.
Make sure that everything is not tied too tightly so that it also remains safe.
2 Blindfold
When you take away the view everything is a surprise and that is extra exciting and horny.
3 Spanking
Spanking with your hand or a whip can be very exciting.
Build things up slowly with soft taps alternating with caressing.
Pain and pleasure are close together and when you build it up slowly it is very stimulating for many people.
4 Giving orders
Orders are certainly also part of the BDSM game.
Dare to say/demand what you want. This can be anything, sex positions, masturbating, saying crazy things etc.
5 Candle wax
Candle wax feels wonderful on the skin and it is also a special way of stimulating.
Buy a BDSM candle for this and do not just use normal candles.
Also keep the candle at a good distance so that you prevent burn marks.
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