A healthy sex life is an important part of overall well-being and happiness.
It’s about more than just physical intimacy; it includes emotional connection, respect, communication, and caring for both your own health and that of your partner(s). Below, we’ve got tips and advice for keeping your sex life healthy and fulfilling.
Open and honest communication is the basis of a healthy sex life. Dare to talk to your partner(s) about your desires, wishes, boundaries and any concerns. This creates trust and understanding, and helps prevent misunderstandings.
Talk about desires and boundaries:
What do you like? What don’t you like? What are your fantasies or things you would like to explore? It is important to discuss this respectfully and openly.
Choose the right time
It is best to discuss sensitive topics at a quiet moment, not immediately before or after sex, unless it is about something that is going on at that moment.
Use “I-messages”:
Speak from your own feelings and experience (e.g. “I feel…” instead of “You always do…”).
Listen actively:
Give your partner space to express themselves and listen attentively to what he/she has to say.
Mutual Consent and Respect
Sexual activity should always take place with the full, free and enthusiastic consent of all involved. This is also called consent.
A clear “yes”:
Consent must be given explicitly. The absence of a “no” does not mean a “yes.” Also pay attention to nonverbal cues. In doubt? Ask.
Consent is ongoing:
Consent to one action does not automatically mean consent to another. Consent can also be withdrawn at any time.
Respect boundaries:
Everyone’s boundaries are different and can change. Always respect them, even if you don’t fully understand them. Pressure or manipulation is never okay.
Take care of your Physical Health
Your physical health has a direct impact on your sex life.
A healthy and varied diet and regular exercise contribute to good energy levels, a healthy libido and a positive self-image. Some foods, such as watermelon, figs, bananas and avocados, are associated with a healthy libido.
Limit alcohol and quit smoking:
Excessive alcohol consumption can negatively affect sexual function. Smoking constricts blood vessels, which can affect genital arousal.
Adequate sleep and stress management:
Chronic stress and fatigue are detrimental to your libido. Get enough relaxation and sleep. Techniques such as mindfulness or yoga can help reduce stress.
Your mental and emotional state are inextricably linked to your sexual well-being.
Self-image and self-confidence:
A positive self-image and self-confidence contribute to a more enjoyable sex life. Be gentle with yourself and your body.
Intimacy and Connection:
Sex can be a way to deepen intimacy and connection. Cuddling, touching, and quality time outside the bedroom are just as important.
Seek help if needed:
If you are struggling with mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, or trauma, this may be affecting your sex life. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help from a therapist or sexologist.
Protect yourself and your partner(s) against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and unwanted pregnancy.
Use condoms:
Condoms are the only contraceptive that also protects against most STDs. Use them correctly and consistently, especially with new or changing partners.
Regular STD testing:
Get tested regularly for STDs, especially if you have multiple partners or if you want to have sex with a new partner without a condom (after you have both tested negative).
Contraception:
Discuss with your doctor or other healthcare provider which contraceptive method is best suited to you and your situation to prevent unwanted pregnancy.
Hygiene:
Good personal hygiene is important. Wash genitals with water; soap can cause the natural balance of dust, especially in women. Clean sex toys thoroughly after each use.
Vaccinations and PrEP:
Ask about vaccinations against HPV and hepatitis B, for example. For people at increased risk of HIV, there is PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis).
A healthy sex life is also a sex life that stays alive.
Trying new things:
Be open to discovering new things with your partner(s), whether it’s new positions, toys, locations, or forms of intimacy. This keeps things exciting and can bring you closer together.
Know your own body:
Masturbation is a healthy way to get to know your own body and preferences.
A healthy and satisfying sex life is a personal journey that requires attention and care.
By communicating openly, treating each other with respect and taking good care of yourself, you lay a solid foundation for a pleasant and healthy sex life.
